The pain engraved in my heart after several miscarriages

The little prince said: The really important things cannot be seen by eyes. Miss B holds a knife in her hand and Miss A looks unhappy. What is hidden behind her?
2024-05-03
Author: Dr. Hsing-Hua Lai, MD
Translator: Lydia

  1. Abortion (failure) is the most expensive! What's more expensive is that I don't know why.
  2. Everything happens for a “reason".
  3. The "invisible" is more important than the visible.
  4. “Appearances” can be deceiving.
  5. "Medical records of having a child" are more important than tests.

These five points may be difficult to understand. Let’s give an example: when you come home from work and find that your wedding ring is missing, do you think it was “missing” or “stolen”? I don’t believe that Santa Claus will drop money from the sky (godsend), so my “intuition” is that it has been stolen. However, it’s difficult to catch the thief unless it's a habitual thief.

It’s not a big deal if you lose your wedding ring, but it’s painful if you lose a child ! Miscarriage or fetal demise, every time a tragedy occurs, "experts'' always remember to "repeat" the textbook. I believe "Siri'' will answer better. In the Internet generation, just swipe, and who doesn't know that 60% of failure is due to chromosomal abnormalities? Others include uterine abnormalities, endocrine abnormalities, infections, autoimmunity, etc. The key point is that mothers not only want to "catch the thief", but also want to know  "how to avoid it ".  Especially those who are doing in vitro fertilization.

"Can you tell whether a watermelon is sweet or not by appearance?" No, You have to try it !

The little prince said: The really important things cannot be seen by eyes.

Miss B holds a knife in her hand, and Miss A looks unhappy and seems to have evil intentions. What is hidden behind her? Maybe it's a bigger knife, or maybe it's just a "prank" that turns into a surprise the next second ! There is nothing to be afraid of if you can see "Little Knife"? Just find a way to deal with it, so we often say: "Appearances can be misleading ! What is invisible is more important."

 

What can’t be seen in in-vitro fertilization?

Four myths about in vitro fertilization

There are four major myths about in vitro fertilization (1978~), let discuss about them together:

  1. Should I do PGS (PGT-A)? (When there are few embryos or when embryos are implanted for three days)
  2. Do I have to do ERA? (When there are few embryos or when embryos are implanted for three days)
  3. Which is better, three-day or five-day embryo implantation? (When there are few eggs or when you are old)
  4. Do I have autoimmunity or blood clots? (Why do I still have a miscarriage even though the immune tests are normal?)
Believe that science will win!

There are two points of view in everything, the "conservative" and the "scientific". The former "Gambling odds" (betting) and the latter "goes for accuracy" (seeking the best). It doesn't matter what is right or wrong. Just do what suits you. If you want to tailor-made and precise IVF treatment, then choose "Third Generation in vitro-fertilization plus": Implant a chromosomally normal embryo (PGS) at the right time (ERA), supplemented by "Dynamic triple detection"; in case of miscarriage or fetal arrest, there is no need to ask "experts" to read out the textbook. Call the police, the "bad guy" is probably autoimmune or has blood clots. 

Everything has a reason, and so does habitual miscarriage. If miscarriage and fetal demise are  "mistakes", how to collect as much data as possible (CVS/blood test/bacterial culture...etc )? When the first error occurs, we can use the "elimination method" to compare to the known reasons in the "textbook", it is not difficult for the "bad guy" to show up, which is called "learning by mistake"!

Sometimes all tests are normal, but that doesn’t mean there is “really” nothing wrong. Every test has its blind spots and errors. For example, there are hundreds of autoimmune indicators. Is it possible to test every test? Oh my God! How much blood does it take (shock and fainting) and how much does it cost (bankruptcy)? Usually it’s just a few key points. If the results show normal, how should you explain it? At this time, we would say, "Medical records of having a child are more important than the test." Will the child be "killed" repeatedly for no reason? (Will Santa Claus really drop money from the sky?)

There are not many people with unexplained habitual miscarriage anymore. Except for a very small number of people with thin endometrium (<6mm) or uterine abnormalities (congenital or acquired), "The third generation invitro-fertilization plus” (IVF 3.0 plus) has a solution, as long as it is not given up!

*This article only reflects the treatment status at the time of writing, and the actual situation should be discussed with the doctor.

*This article only reflects the treatment status at the time of writing, and the actual situation should be discussed with the doctor.